It was pointed out to me that the concept of “Going Cave Man” isn’t a complete bucket of crap. Yes, in theory it works. In practice it doesn’t. HOWEVER, there is a theory that is similar to “Going Cave Man” that is infinitely more successful and applicable to modern times. I like to call this theory “Going 50′s Man”
If we think back to the stereotypical 50′s male, we find ourselves thinking of the tall, dark, handsome type (luckily in pick up, appearance doesn’t mean a lot). The husbands that came home and the wife had their slippers waiting for their feet and a drink ready for their hands. They weren’t cave man aggressive, but they weren’t submissive either. These men knew what they wanted, when they wanted it, and how they wanted it.
These men were also just coming back from World War II, you had to be rough to survive that one. This translated into life at home too. Keep in mind, it’s a more civilized and controlled aggression than cave men. This theory holds up in practice because it’s not as primal, you can add some modern flair to it. If you think about it, “Going Cave Man” is really the 50′s male on steroids. Tone the aggression down and the concepts of primal overdrive will actually work. Instead of throwing a girl into a wall, try pulling her to you gently and with authority. It’s really a Renaissance man theory (multi-facted, not one dimensional).
“Going Cave Man” fails because it is overly aggressive, completely primal, and lacks finesse. “Going 50′s Man” on the other hand, is phenomenally successful because it is aggression combined with gentility, the primal with a modern flair, and is subliminally accessing secret desires instead of breaking into them. I would have no problem putting a personal warranty on this method. If done correctly, it never fails.
What’s worse than commenters who disagree? Fans who like your blog who always have a quibble or two,that’s what!
I agree with most of what you said, assuming we understand the statements are not about the way 100% of 950s men actually were, but more about what they were expected to be (and how probably most of them tried to be at least some of the time)
But the last statement I don’t think is true..It’s only doing to “never fail” when the person (or woman in this case) being approached is looking for that kind of dynamic, then, yes, it will never fail. But not all women are looking for that.
There are other women who prefer these exact roles reversed. It’s a smaller group, but a real group.
These is a third group of women who cannot relate to either of the above — they absolutely don’t want to be in either the man’s role or the women’s role in the two-part dynamic being described.
On another topic, I don’t understand why you admire someone going on 100 dates with 100 different women all in the small space of a short period of only 100 days..that isn’t good for him or his dates..What would be the food equivalent of that? A “how many ____ can you eat in 20 minutes?” food eating contest maybe? Not healthy but some people do it and I don’t want to make it illegal or to shout at them..but just to say, hey friend, take a little break and step back from it all and ask yourself, is this what I really want to do? Does it really feed my soul and my true (not superficial) needs?
Dr. Emmett Miller mentioned when trying to eat more healthy, to ask whether the food is whistling to you or humming to you…a high sugar high fat dessert might whistle to you, tempt you, but not really good for you or ultimately, what you want. When you’re honestly hungry and if it’s wholesome well made food, the food will hum. The dating thing is making attractive sounds to that blogger, and to some others..but they would like whistles from here. And even if some of those people are interested in non-monogamy or other nonconventional things, there are more hum-like ways of getting them, IMO..
Quibbles or not, having young people who are thoughtful, introspective, open minded, willing to change their minds, willing to challenge others but in a gentle way, and wanting to make the world a better place — we need more bloggers, and more citizens, like that, for the future of this country and the future of the Earth..
I agree that sometimes this method can fail. However, since it is a very small group of women who prefer no dynamic/different dynamic is very small, I guess what I meant to say is that it will work the majority of the time. These woman are few and far between.
In respect to the 100 girls/100 days project- As far as my understanding goes, it isn’t necessarily dates that he goes on. He merely wants to have “encounters”, ie meet people and interact with them.