Posts Tagged ‘theory’

It was pointed out to me that the concept of “Going Cave Man” isn’t a complete bucket of crap. Yes, in theory it works. In practice it doesn’t. HOWEVER, there is a theory that is similar to “Going Cave Man” that is infinitely more successful and applicable to modern times. I like to call this theory “Going 50’s Man”

If we think back to the stereotypical 50’s male, we find ourselves thinking of the tall, dark, handsome type (luckily in pick up, appearance doesn’t mean a lot). The husbands that came home and the wife had their slippers waiting for their feet and a drink ready for their hands. They weren’t cave man aggressive, but they weren’t submissive either. These men knew what they wanted, when they wanted it, and how they wanted it.

These men were also just coming back from World War II, you had to be rough to survive that one. This translated into life at home too. Keep in mind, it’s a more civilized and controlled aggression than cave men. This theory holds up in practice because it’s not as primal, you can add some modern flair to it. If you think about it, “Going Cave Man” is really the 50’s male on steroids. Tone the aggression down and the concepts of primal overdrive will actually work. Instead of throwing a girl into a wall, try pulling her to you gently and with authority. It’s really a Renaissance man theory (multi-facted, not one dimensional).

“Going Cave Man” fails because it is overly aggressive, completely primal, and lacks finesse. “Going 50’s Man” on the other hand, is phenomenally successful because it is aggression combined with gentility, the primal with a modern flair, and is subliminally accessing secret desires instead of breaking into them. I would have no problem putting a personal warranty on this method. If done correctly, it never fails.


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Curious from Connecticut asked me if I could explain “Going Cave Man” and if I would suggest it as a method to close women. Here’s my advice for you.

There is a theory in the pick up community which suggests that women are internally hardwired to respond to primal actions (aggression/sexual overtones etc). The theory also suggests that these primal actions will override any “modern” responses or rejections from the woman and cause her to give in to her basic and bestial urges. (Translation: If you act like a cave man, the woman will respond purely out of lust instead of taking the time to think her actions through like modern humans).

Frankly, this theory is a bunch of sh*t. It fails on a variety of levels. First, if a woman is flat out saying that she isn’t interested, no amount of aggression or attempts to change her mind are going to work. They’ll just make her like you less because you come off as a total creeper. Second, there are basic instincts that are programmed into human beings in general. If you try too hard to tap into that “primal” area of instinctual behavior, you could come off as a threat and trigger the primal “fight or flight” instinct.

Here is another (and possibly the most important) level on which “going cave man” fails – you can often get carried away by it which lands you in a whole world of trouble. I had a guy try to use it on me (see the self defense post) and he couldn’t see when he had gone too far. Basically, he got the police set on him for assault (the aggressive/violent part of the theory). This theory WILL get you in trouble when used in real life. If you want to play with fire and see if I’m serious, go ahead and try for yourself. I really hope you just take my word for it though because it’s not worth the hassle. I would definitely NOT suggest this method to close a girl no matter what the circumstances are. It’s just too dangerous for you and too much trouble for everyone involved.

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